My biggest obstacle with my recovery was having to change all my old friends. I had to learn to be okay and comfortable with my own company. After I learned and became comfortable with that I then found new and sober friends. I had to learn to love myself before being able to be of any support to anybody else.
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That’s such a powerful realization. Letting go of old friendships, even when they no longer serve you, is one of the hardest parts of recovery. But learning to be comfortable in your own company and truly loving yourself is such a huge milestone. It takes so much strength to walk that path, and it’s amazing that you’ve found new, sober friendships along the way. Your journey is a testament to the power of self-growth and healing. Keep embracing that love for yourself—it’s the foundation for everything else.
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Dang, this definitely hit home. Thanks for sharing this. I had a very similar experience and it was extremely difficult.
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I realte to this so much. I felt like I had no friends for quite a while and I had lost everything I knew. Its a grieving process for sure and something really difficult to do!
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Learning to love and be comfortable with my own company was the best gift Ive given myself. FOMO and social anxiety was a recipe for disaster. I no longer have FOMO. More like FOGO (fear of going out) haha still have social anxiety but I just make sure to go places I know are safe, and I dont go when I dont want to.
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Hey, you gotta love some of your using friends “using you” when they want something from you. AND you LET THEM USE YOU! I’m that guy. Well, I’m sure we all have been that person. I’ve recently distanced myself from a few that only offer that kind of behavior from their friendship. I would/will have a hard time losing or not hanging out with my best friend tho. That’s what scares me. We have been through so much together. How do you break that bond? Is it even possible?? I mean we know every thought in each other’s brain. We finish each other’s sentences for Christ sake! Or am I or is that just simply a reason for me not wanting to quit using?? Can it be or is it even possible to still be best friends with a best friend that still uses or do you have to quit all times in fear of relapsing. I kind of think that my best friend and I are like an addiction of its own or am I just secretly in love with him?? I know, I’m fucked, right?? Ugh!! ~ g
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