Early in my recovery, I never knew what that meant
I’ve lived long enough to know that people come and go, but principles—those are what truly matter. When I was younger, I got caught up in personalities. I admired charm, I followed confidence, and sometimes, I let my emotions cloud my judgment. I’d support someone because I liked them, or dismiss an idea just because I didn’t like the person who said it. But life has a way of teaching you hard lessons.
Somewhere along the way, I realized that integrity means standing by what’s right, even when it’s inconvenient, even when it means disagreeing with people I care about. I learned that wisdom can come from unexpected places, even from people I don’t particularly like. And I saw firsthand how ego and personal agendas can ruin good work if we let them take priority.
Now, in my 50s, I know better. I don’t let personalities dictate my choices. I focus on principles—honesty, fairness, accountability. I listen for truth, not just for voices I enjoy hearing. And I make sure my decisions align with my values, not just with the people I happen to like. Because at the end of the day, people fade, reputations shift, but principles? They stand the test of time.
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I was going to say something similar to @Gatsby.
I think the only thing I could add is that if you are confident in your own principles and values and you have the courage to act accordingly then you can be comfortable knowing that you are operating with integrity.
You may lose people or opportunities because of your integrity but you can be comfortable with your self and your choices.
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