As a person of color, getting help at times turns uncomfortable for me. I usually turn defensive on most approaches and try to turn down even genuine help. This I think stems from a history of literature reading and shared stories and experiences among friends. I tend to find my self preferring majority black institutions or black therapists. This I think is a psychological problem on my end and I am working in it. Does anyone also with addiction problem experience the same?
Hi @Anata, I know for me as a gay man, I always pick female doctors, therapists, dentists, bankers, peer support, friends. I feel safer, not because I am feminine, but most straight men just don’t understand why guys can be gay and they end up treating me as a straight man. I’ve had straight men as doctors, etc and it always ends up bad. I think you’re right when you say it’s a psychological problem, but is it? I get along with straight men otherwise, but idk?? ~ g
I don’t think it is a psychological problem. It’s normal to be more comfortable around people that are more like you. Color, sexual orientation, spirituality, country of origin, profession, neighborhood, …
I imagine it makes it more difficult to find the supportive services because they do tend to be dominated by white folks.