I keep a lot of friends because I see friends as my second family but most of my friends keeps betraying me. Any advice on how to deal with this
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@Mike
Can you share more about what you mean by betraying you?
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My best friend talked poorly about me at my back. This is so painful
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That sounds like its a painful experience. Were you able to talk to them?
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Unfortunately No
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Thats super rough… What do you think would be helpful to move through this?
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I guess, I’m just the opposite. I try and keep my circle small. Two of my best friends betrayed me in such a way that I can never forgive them. We were so close that we did everything together. Where you saw one, the other two were close by. When someone intentionally spreads horrid rumors about you, you can’t get past that. I lost so much in just such a short time that I can never get back. Keep your circle small.
One piece of wisdom I got was..changing people, places and things. Especially people who eirher are from the past or people who are not feeling too good about themselves. It has been important in my recovery to be around people who are smiling, kind and condiderate. Sometimes I. Run into old friends and I cant believe how they talk about themselves or others because I am getting used to much more positivity
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I totally agree.. my mind set is so much more positive. I’ve spent so much of my life in a living hell due to my addictions. I’m 41 years old and for the first time in my life I’m feeling all these new feelings. The joy I have now days is unbelievable. So I know the demons I fight on a daily and I know everyone has their own demons their fighting. So I think of that when ever I interact with another. And I’m all about spreading joy and happiness.
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Also I try to teach my kids as well as others I’ve raised. People are always going to talk about you. Good or bad. People will even think they know about your life and what you’re “doing” and talk on it and spread rumors. Try not to hand over your power and react. You know what you’re doing. Let people assume. If you have to distance yourself from those who betray you. People are meant to come in and out of your life. For the ones who leave are making room for those that are meant to. E in your life and to bring you courage and ambition to do better. Hang in there. It does get easier leaving the ones you once thought we’re family behind. I’m not saying it’s not going to hurt but in time it gets better and you’ll see the lesson in your friendship.
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