Some times relatives will turn to me to talk or for help and we are all known in a small circle, this person may confide things to me that I think they will share with others in our circle but they chose not to. For example maybe the person is asking me to come spend the night at my house because she is in crisis, so it affects me in a bigger way. I feel like I am put in a weird position then because the relatives that I would usually process my stuff in my life with then dont know what is actually happening. What to do then??? Clear as mud right!!
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Wow yea that’s a tough one. I’ve thought about that too. I mean I have my ex-husband and his fiancé staying in my room with me. So the not fixing thing really makes me think twice. Hope it works out for you.
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I love that “clear as mud”. It is incredibly difficult. Do you have your own therapist? Ima big advocate that professionals in this space have their own support outside of their work and friends. Professionls need other professionals. Unbiased and theres no fear of that overlap. Its hard when you are put in a position to hold the weight for someone.
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That’s a tough spot to be in! It sounds like you’re carrying a lot—trying to support someone in crisis while also feeling a bit isolated from the people you normally lean on. It makes sense that you’d want to process what’s happening with your trusted relatives, but at the same time, you’re holding onto something private that isn’t really yours to share.
So, how do you balance being there for them while also taking care of yourself? Have you found ways to get the support you need without breaking their trust? Or does it feel like a no-win situation?
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