How did you receive support

I’m interested in finding out the different ways you received support in your recovery process from friends and family and was it in the form of support you needed or was there a better way they could have supported you.

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For me, it was definitely my family. They stood by me through more than 13 treatment programs, and for that, I’m so incredibly grateful.

My parents and sister made a big difference. I’ve come to realize that much of that behavior came from a place of fear—fear of losing someone they love. I can understand that now.

Looking back from where I am today, it’s eye-opening to see things from the other side. It’s not easy to be the family member or friend who feels so helpless, watching someone you care about struggle. It’s a tough journey for everyone involved.

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Before recovery they all showed me some real tough love. Basically cut me off with no support. But I get it I was an absolute menace. Now, over a year we’re stronger. I get it now. I would have done the same. We’re real open and honest with each other and they are always there to celebrate my wins and support me through my lows. I do know the second I slip if it ever happens that door will be slammed and I’m sure rock bottom will his reaaaaaaal fast. My counselor said they know what kind of love I need- I need the direct tough love.

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That’s such a good question! For me, the best support was when friends and family just showed up and listened without judging. It made me feel like I wasn’t alone, and that meant so much. But honestly, there were times I wished they understood recovery and addiction better—like, they tried to help, but sometimes their advice wasn’t really what I needed. Looking back, I think I should’ve been more open about what kind of support I wanted. What worked best for you @WMiner ?

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That’s a really good question. For me, being a bit older, I think the support I got from my family was mostly about them just being there with empathy and understanding. They didn’t try to push me or fix things—they just listened and let me know they cared and believed I could get through it.

They didn’t always get everything right, but they tried to learn and meet me where I was. Honestly, that made all the difference. It wasn’t perfect, but it was exactly what I needed at the time—love and patience without a ton of pressure.

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The hardest thing as a parent is to shut out your child, even when you know it’s the right thing to do. It’s like cutting off your own arm.

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My boyfriend, my brother and my youngest child were my biggest supports in my early recovery. The rest of my family didn’t really want much to do with me. It took me awhile to really understand why but it made me successful in my recovery this time, so it was meant to be.

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I am actually the parent of two adult children in recovery. I think the best thing, but the hardest, is setting boundaries and sticking to them. Always let them know how much you love them but they have to do the hard work. I couldn’t carry them.

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Hey ddenhof! Welcome :heart: Glad youu’re here

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I like that phrase “I couldn’t carry them” – that’s powerful.

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Yea thats heavy for sure. I cant imagine and often remember the pain my parents went through trying to do just that

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Family played and is still playing a great role in my recovery phase

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Howd they show up that worked for you @Moses ? Thats always such a tricky thing for families to navigate

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In my recovery journey, I received support from friends and family in various ways. Helpful support included emotional support, practical help, and encouragement, which boosted my motivation and confidence. However, some support didn’t quite meet my needs, such as unsolicited advice, comparisons to others, and pressure to “get back to normal.” I wish they had educated themselves about addiction and recovery, practiced active listening, and respected my boundaries. Despite this, I’m grateful for their support and hope that sharing my experiences can help others better support their loved ones in recovery.

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