One of the biggest challenges I have faced in recovery is adjusting my attitude, tolerance, and demeanor. By claiming ownership and accountability of these, I have discovered that other’s actions have less power on how I feel.
By coming to terms with the fact that I am the one solely responsible for how I show up, how I feel, what my attitude is, and how I am going to act; I have learned that I get to decide what this looks like.
I used to think that other’s actions and feelings influenced my own, but this is not the case. It does not matter what someone else is doing, as long as I stay focused on how I want my attitude and demeanor to be. Now I would like to state that we also have the ability to allow others actions and feelings to dictate our own. But I would also like to note that this is not their problem, it’s a me problem. By allowing things around us to dictate our mindset, we lose control over how we want our mindset to be.
The hardest part to all of this is staying focused on what we want our attitude and feelings to be and sticking to this mindset. It takes a lot of practice to get good at this, but it is extremely powerful when we learn how to do it. We are less influenced by negativity and can stay on a positive path.
I encourage you to take a look at how you allow others to influence your mindset. Are there things you can do to block out negativity and maintain a positive mindset?