First of all, congratulations on almost six months of recovery! That’s an incredible achievement, and it’s clear how much thought and care you’re putting into protecting it during the holidays. It’s absolutely valid to feel nervous—family dynamics, alcohol, and the holidays can be a tough combination. Here are some things that have helped me during this season:
- Have a Plan Ahead of Time
• Set boundaries: Decide in advance what you’re comfortable with. If you need to leave early, avoid certain conversations, or skip specific events, that’s okay. Protecting your sobriety is the priority.
• Bring a sober buddy: If you have a supportive friend or family member who knows about your journey, ask them to stick close and offer moral support.
• Prepare responses: Practice a simple, neutral reply to questions about not drinking, like, “I’m focusing on my health,” or “I just feel better without it.”
- Create a Support System
• Stay connected: Let someone in your support circle (sponsor, friend, peer, or therapist) know where you’ll be and check in with them before, during, or after the gathering.
• Have an escape plan: Drive yourself or have transportation arranged so you can leave if things get overwhelming.
- Bring Your Own Comforts
• Non-alcoholic drinks: Bring sparkling water, mocktails, or your favorite soda so you always have something in hand. It helps avoid questions and gives you a sense of control.
• Self-soothing items: Whether it’s headphones for a quick music break, a book, or even stepping outside for fresh air, bring tools that can help you reset if needed.
- Practice Self-Compassion
• It’s okay to feel awkward or overwhelmed—it’s all part of the process. Celebrate your effort and progress, even if the day isn’t perfect.
- Consider Alternative Plans
• If the environment feels too risky, you can start a new tradition, like spending time with sober friends or volunteering. You can still connect with family in other ways that feel safer.
Remember, you’re allowed to protect your peace and sobriety. It’s not selfish; it’s essential. Take it one moment at a time, and know you’re not alone in this. 